Cast of Characters

Hi.  Welcome to the craziness.  We’re a regular ol’ family in Virginia with the good luck to be a foster family.  We began the foster care licensing process in 2013, and became licensed in 2014, and have welcomed 10 children into our home since then.  There have been a lot of adventures along the way, and I’m sure there are more to come.  So come along for the ride, y’all.

Mama – That’s me.  Foster mom, adoptive mom, and bio mom.

Big Kahuna – That’s my husband.  He’s wavy as gravy.

Sassy – Our daughter who joined our family  through a biological process.  Don’t make me get too graphic.  She’s got an opinion and is willing to share it!  She’s 15.

Silent One – Our son who joined our family at six through adoption after a stint in foster care.  He really can talk, he’s just a lot quieter than most.  And he’s always willing to pitch in and lend a hand.  He’s 18.

Joyful – Our foster daughter, who arrived in April 2015, at age 10, and left July 2016.  Bio sister to Watchful and Jumping Jack.  She loves to giggle for any reason at any time.

Watchful – Our foster son, who arrived in April 2015, at age 8, and left July 2016.  Bio brother to Joyful and Jumping Jack.  He’s cute as a button, and he’s keeping his eye on you to see if you’re “for real.”

Jumping Jack – Our respite foster son, age 4, on and off from June 2015-July 2016, and bio brother to Joyful and Watchful.  A firecracker who loves being the center of attention.

Helper – Our respite foster son, age 13, on and off from December 2016-present, and bio brother to Excited.  A fan of being outdoors to play sports and burn off energy.

Excited – Our respite foster son, age 7, on and off from December 2016-present, and bio brother to Helper. I swear this child could make friends with the grouchiest, grumpiest person on earth.

Big Ben – Our respite foster son, age 14, in March 2017 and older bio brother to Prince Charming and Turkey.  So very polite, but quite shy.  He’s most comfortable playing video games and loves to wear fancy sports shoes.

Prince Charming – Our respite foster son, age 13, in March 2017 and bio brother to Big Ben and Turkey.  He has a ready smile, an easy way about him, and the ability to strike up a conversation with anyone that makes me think he’ll be a real heart-breaker with the ladies.

Turkey – Our respite foster son, age 9, in March 2017 and younger bio brother to Big Ben and Prince Charming.  If there’s a basketball hoop, Turkey will grab his brothers and hustle up a game.

Harry Potter – Our respite foster son, age 6, for several times in the spring of 2017 and older bio brother to Explorer.  Loves to read and would check out every book at the library if allowed!

Explorer – Our respite foster son, age 5, for several times in the spring of 2017 and younger bio brother to Harry Potter.  Always ready for a cuddle or a back rub, and absolutely adores anything with wheels on it.

4 thoughts on “Cast of Characters

  1. I really love your blog. I think we need to show a positive side to the foster care system, maybe more good people will decided to become foster parents if they can see how amazing it is. I am a single foster parent and am 28 years old. I LOVE my job! and I love my foster son dearly! I’ve always thought about adopting him, and what that would be like, its something that always brushes through my mind. However, if I were to adopt him I would have to take on a different job and also take care of him, I wouldn’t be able give him the special attention that he needs to continue to develop so that he can have a better quality of life as he grows. I also don’t have a second income and his needs are so expensive. It makes more sense for both of us to have him as my foster son. But it would be so nice to be able to make more decisions for him, and have more rights.


    1. Hi Chantybella. Thanks for your kind note. It sounds like you’d like to consider adopting your foster son, but have concerns about making ends meet after foster care assistance stops. Guess what? There’s good news. There’s money out there for people who are in situations just like yours!

      Post-adoption subsidies help make it more affordable to raise a child with ongoing needs. On the federal level there is Title IV-E funds, which you can browse at States have funding, too. Find your state’s specific post-adoption funding guidelines at Good luck in whatever you decide and keep me updated!


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