Watchful’s new therapist, who I will call Maude, strongly believes that young boys who have suffered physical abuse need their foster parents to be super strong “bosses.” Is being extra strict best? What are your thoughts?
I’m open to learning new parenting techniques. One thing I’ve learned about parenting kids with behavior issues, attachment issues, and past trauma is that “regular” parenting is not always the most effective. But I wonder how well this “super boss” approach will mesh with mine and my husband’s personalities.
Maude began the therapy session telling Watchful in no uncertain terms that I am his boss and that he will listen to me. When he complained about not liking to go to therapy, Maude’s response was that I am in charge of taking care of Watchful and I have determined that he needs therapy and that is that.
Gotta run. But more on this therapy approach soon. Wait until you hear about how she wants us to handle the self harming. The overall therapy model we will be using is called the Attachment, Self-Regulation and Competency (ARC) framework.
Have you done ARC? Did it work?